The “At Least” Mentality

The picture above is from 2006. I’m sitting on top of my BABY, a blue 1998 Honda Accord. 💕💕

I LOVED THAT CAR!! I remember passing by the car when it was for sale. I wanted it so bad, and one day, my dad decided to stop and test drive it. Turns out, the car didn’t go in reverse 😳. Crazy, but I think those Honda’s have transmission issues. I didn’t care at all LOL!! I had to have that car. My parents couldn’t afford to buy me a brand new car, and I was ok with that, I just wanted to be on the road.

I was so happy when my dad brought it home!! It was $1,400, but you couldn’t tell me that it wasn’t a $30,000 car! I couldn’t contain my excitement!! I was all over the county in “baby blue”. I even quit playing basketball to “loaf the road”, as my coach said 😂😂😂 but that’s a different story for a different day.

Right now I’m thinking about my car. As much as I loved it, I wasn’t willing to wait for a fully functional car. I had to have THAT ONE. 🤦🏾‍♀️. It made a loud noise when it started up, wouldn’t go in reverse (so I had to park uphill or in an area where I could make a loop), and the back door was dented pretty badly. In spite of the obvious, I was driving and I was happy (or so I thought).

How many times have we rushed a process, just to have SOMETHING? In my mind, any car was better than no car. Oddly enough, that mentality spread throughout my life. First in relationships. So what if he cheated a little, At least I wasn’t alone. So what if he’s not financially responsible? I can pay my own bills and pay for some dates.

It even spread into my friendships. So what if she only calls me when she needs something? At least I have someone to call when I want to chit chat. So what if the friendship is one-sided? At least I have someone to text.

Let’s get out of the AT LEAST mentality. I should have waited for a fully functional car. I should have waited and passed on some of the relationships and friendships that were presented to me, because they were not a fit for me.

I think it boils down to being confident and feeling that you deserve the best. For the longest time, I didn’t really feel that way. I was almost trained to accept less. But now……..ohhhhhh baby!!!! Try me now! 💁🏾‍♀️

If I see that something doesn’t meet my standards, whether it’s a house, a car, a man, a friend, a dress lol……I’ll pass. 👌🏾 I no longer have room for the bare minimum in my life.

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